Rise & Grind - Relationship Check-Up

Today we are checking in with your relationships. Whether you are evaluating your marriage, a new connection or your self love, it's a good time to check-up and see how things are going.
Quarantine definitely threw a wrench in our normal dating/date night routines. We are seeing this as a good reason to changes things up! Check out our list of 2020 friendly date ideas!
A check-up is a great way to maintain a healthy relationship. Check in with your partner to catch issues while they are small and create great communication skills.
We are big fans of The 5 Love Languages that was written by Gary Chapman. Since you're here, we figured you love shopping as much as we do and so why break it down through what we all know best. We are giving you a good rundown on what to do and not do based on your loved one's love language.
There are plenty of online quizzes you can take to find out yours and your loved one's love language. Keep in mind, it can change throughout your life, so feel free to reevaluate and see if something you need changes over time. 

1. Acts of Service: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

The things you do to ease the responsibilities and burdens of others. It means a lot when someone goes out of their way to do something, especially when it involves some sort of sacrifice. 

How To Show Love:

- Doing chores around the house
- Running errands for them
- Fixing things
- Helping out with a project
- Doing tasks without being asked
- Sacrificing what you want to do to complete one of the above things

What To Avoid:

- Laziness
- Broken Commitments
- Making more work for them
- Wishy washy about time


2. Receiving Gifts: It's The Thought That Counts!

Gifts and gestures show that you are loved, cared for and thought deeply about. They thrive on the thoughtfulness and effort behind the visual representation of love. The want the meaning and thoughtfulness even more than the gift itself.

How To Show Love:

- Flowers
- Their favorite treat
- Anything they have ever talked about wanting
- Something that ties back to a memory or experience together
- Small gestures that show you were thinking of them
- Taking lots of time or consulting family or friends when choosing gifts

What To Avoid:

- Missing birthdays or anniversaries
- Thoughtless gifts
- Last minute, generic gifts
- Acting like gifts shouldn't matter

3. Quality Time: Spell Love Like T-I-M-E

Spending time together while being fully present with no distractions is how to show your love. Put the focus on this person and remember to not let that waiver for your entire time together.

How To Show Love:

- Going for a walk together
- Meeting for lunch
- Taking a weekend trip together
- Planned out, thoughtful dates
- Quality conversations
- Doing hobbies together

What To Avoid:

- Not listening
- Broken Commitments
- Distractions like phones or TV
- Postponing plans

4. Words of Affirmation: I LOVE YOU!

Expressing your love in sincere words and explaining why is what means the most. Verbally communicate often and explain the reasons why you feel the way you do to fully validate your loved one.

How To Show Love:

- Saying "I Love You" frequently
- Explain all the reasons why you love them
- Brag about your spouse to others
- Encourage and build them up
- Write notes or text messages letting them know you are thinking of them
- Compliment often

What To Avoid:

- Unnecessary criticism
- Insults
- Speaking before thinking
- Passive aggressive comments

5. Physical Touch: Let's Get Physical🎶

Physical presence and accessibility are important. From hugs, hand holding, cuddling and everything in between, each touch validates and holds a strong level of intimacy for this person. 

How To Show Love:

- Cuddling
- Hand holding
- Kissing
- Massage
- Any reassuring touch
- Hugging

What To Avoid:

- Withholding physical touch for any reason
- Neglect
- Rejection
- Too much physical space
Source: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, cuddlecomfort.com